We beat around the bush because we are so scared of being rejected by others. We will supress our own truth in situations to feel loved, accepted, and approved. If you want authentic relationships in your life, this means speaking your truth even if your voice shakes. What’s more uncomfortable is suppressing your own truth.
Supressing the truth results in illness and disease manifesting in the body.
It has taken me years before I found the courage to speak my truth. I struggled to express my truth in conversation with others and my life didn't reflect the truth of who I knew I was. It took some challenging personal circumstances before I started getting really truthful with myself. I eventually realised that the turmoil I perceived in my life was simply an expression of how I felt within who I was. With this revelation, my crises became the catalyst for my own inner freedom.
From my experiences, I found that having the confidence to speak and live my truth came from the connection I held within myself. The more I listened to and trusted my own inner guidance, the more strength I found within myself.
I discovered that, the closer I felt to who I truly was I stopped worrying about what others thought of me. Instead, the foundation of how I lived became grounded in my own inner knowing. I held certainty and clarity within who I was a person.
Being able to embody and express ourselves authentically in this way, is something I have become deeply passionate about, personally and with my healing clients. I now know that we can develop the confidence to speak and live our truth in any moment.
At 47, I want authentic relationships in my life. So, if that means speaking my truth and sharing how I feel, I need to honour myself. When I need to confidently express my truth, I follow these steps:
1. Be present
Take a moment to become aware within your body and self. Feel the connection you have with the ground beneath you and become as present in the moment as you know how.
2. Listen for your truth
Put your attention on what you feel and know within your heart, your body, and at the deepest part of who you are (rather than being guided by your mind alone). When something comes up for me, I connect to my heart and speak from my heart. That way, everything I say will be coming from my heart and not my head. If I notice myself going up to my head, I don’t speak. I take my awareness back to my heart.
3. Communicate from your whole self
When you express or act on your truth, do it from an embodied place. Speak from your inner knowing and your whole body (rather than responding from your mind).
As you practice being present, listening to your inner knowing and expressing your truth from the whole of who you are, you will be surprised how effortless it feels to think, move and communicate from this inner place. And with practice, comes confidence.
Where in your life would you love to speak your truth with more openness and confidence? Do you have authentic relationships in your life? Allow your truth to be told. Your story to be heard. Allow your throat to vibrate with the frequency of your authentic truth.
Don’t give up. It’s a journey of growth, and we learn so much from this path. Sometimes we don’t have a voice, and that’s ok. Sometimes the voice is quiet and weak. Sometimes we’ve lost the words, and we don’t have the answers. We have to honor that as well. The moment we can relax into all the aspects of who we are, rather than presenting ourselves as we have it all nailed…this is incredibly powerful.
-Nessi Gomes